the silver lining to the republican nominee

Matt and I had a bonfire last weekend.  The next morning we both had the same observation about the night before.  I think we have found the Donald Trump Silver Lining.

You see what we saw and heard around the bonfire was no tolerance for jokes about sex or gender.  I can't say there was alot of it before - but there always seemed to be jokes or stories that strayed in the area of being in appropriate.  They made me start to feel uncomfortable, and probably others as well.  Michelle Obama might have said it best when she said 

And the truth is, it hurts. It hurts. It’s like that sick, sinking feeling you get when you’re walking down the street minding your own business and some guy yells out vulgar words about your body. Or when you see that guy at work that stands just a little too close, stares a little too long, and makes you feel uncomfortable in your own skin.

When male friends of ours stray toward a joke that we don't like that much we usually brush it off with a "its not that bad" or "at least it isn't worse" but the truth is that its always left me wondering how can we be feminists if we tolerate even a little bit of that type of talk.

But what we noticed that Saturday night was the idea of no more.  We saw

women more willing to defend each other

women who said "no" and "that's not appropriate" when they heard something that made them uncomfortable

women who, in response to this idea that someone who speaks like Donald Trump could be a presidential nominee, decided enough was enough

I think over that scene in Glennon Doyle Melton's Love Warrior where she tells the garbage man - NO, don't do that to me - when he was about to cat call her.  It took such bravery to do that.

Now, it seems, because of Trump is so terrible, more women are willing to be that brave.  To say "NO, don't say that.  NO, thats not appropriate" 

And in that we may have found the only positive to come out of his running in 2016.